BACH FLOWER REMEDIES: HEATHER

Self-Centred, always thinking and talking of his own troubles—the “talkative hypochondriac”Heather’ relates to the soul qualities of sympathy and desire to help others—an extrovert state.In the negative state, the same divine quality turns introvert, and the person becomes self-centred. He is always thinking of his own troubles, and is so much obsessed with them that he needs releasing that pressure by talking to others, and he confines his talk to narrating his personal problems in the minutest detail. He has no time to listen to the other man’s problems, and while talking does not allow any time to other man to talk.If he goes to a doctor for consultation and starts giving his case history, the queue of persons waiting for their turn in the doctor’s clinic goes on swelling, because the Heather patient goes on and on giving minutest details of relevantand irrelevant details.He has the knack of turning any conversation to himself and then become the centre of attention.Suppose in a public place, say a milk booth, two persons are discussing some office problem, then this ‘Heather’ gentleman will innocently poke his nose in, and cleverly generalise the problem and himself become the centre of attention, sometimes stretching the discussion to his personal problems.He tends to exaggerate his troubles, often making mountains of mole-hills. The negative ‘Heather’ type is aptly called The needy child”, because he is always depending on the attention and affection of others which he evokes by talking of his problems before others.Naturally, he wants listeners. He must have the company of some-one to whom he can talk. He feels oppressed when alone, and desperately needs company to off-load everything that happens to him by telling it to others.But nobody likes his company. It is so boring. He is so self-centred and talks incessantly of his personal problems which are of no interest to others. Other people avoid or shun his society. Those that can do it go out of his way.But there are weaker characters which become victims of this type—Centaury is one such type who lacks the will power to rid themselves of its dominant influence. Mimulus type, with its inherent fear and nervousness, also lack the courage to break away, and remain unwilling listeners to the unceasing woes of the ‘HEATHER’ type.*111\308\8*

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